I want rougher sex but I freeze when asking before my partner came home

I want rougher sex with clear consent, but every time I try to ask for hair pulling, choking, or being pinned down, I get embarrassed and act vanilla. I am not confused about right and wrong; I am confused by how strong the wanting gets. Maybe the confession is not that I want it, but that I am tired of being ashamed of wanting.

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