I want rougher sex but I freeze when asking after one drink too many

I want rougher sex with clear consent, but every time I try to ask for hair pulling, choking, or being pinned down, I get embarrassed and act vanilla. Part of me wants permission, part of me wants restraint, and part of me just wants to stop pretending. I know this sounds intense, but pretending it is nothing has not made it disappear.

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